Velcro Baby: A Blessing and A Curse

Raise your hand if you’ve got a Velcro baby; a stage Ten clinger who doesn’t let you out of their sights. It feels like you can’t do anything on your own with out having an audience; you’re not even safe going to the bathroom alone. While it can feel nice to be wanted, it can be a struggle when you’re just trying to get stuff done or want five minutes to yourself to breath.

Velcro babies aren’t trying to manipulate you or make life harder—there’s nothing wrong with them or with you. Babies seek closeness because it helps them feel safe, especially around 6–9 months as they become more aware of new people and surroundings. Experts agree this “Velcro” behavior is actually a sign of healthy, secure attachment, which is essential for a child’s development. Still, that doesn’t make it easy, and support and strategies can help.

Instead of trying to reduce contact, lean into it. Use this time to slow down, rest, and reconnect—even if some tasks wait or are handled by someone else. When parents pause, they often realize they were feeling rushed or overwhelmed first. Letting a baby cry it out doesn’t meet their need for connection, and responding to that need is what builds secure attachment.

Create a routine

Babies thrive on connection—and on knowing what to expect. A predictable routine that balances together time and short separations can help your child feel safer and more secure. When babies know what’s coming next, it often reduces anxiety.

Take baby steps

When introducing separation, go slow. Gradual, manageable breaks help your child learn that it’s okay to be apart because you always come back. Start small—step away for 30 seconds, then a minute—and build from there.

Use clear communication and follow through

It can be tempting to sneak away, but saying goodbye actually helps your baby feel safer and trust that you’ll return. While goodbyes may bring some tears, they’re less distressing than a parent suddenly disappearing.

Talking through your feelings—even if your child doesn’t fully understand—also helps. For example, you might explain that you’re feeling overwhelmed, share what will happen next, and when you’ll be back. As your child gets older, this can include short, planned breaks. The key is following through, which builds trust and secure attachment.

Prioritize self-care

Your needs matter, too. Self-care can be simple—extra minutes in the shower, resting during nap time, or moving your body with your baby. Even small moments help. Seeking support from a mental health professional can also provide tools to manage stress and build healthy coping strategies.

Remember: it’s a season, not forever

Parenting a Velcro baby is hard, especially when you’re in it. But this phase won’t last. Clingy behavior is a normal part of development and a sign of a strong, secure bond. Ask for support, give yourself grace, and remember—childhood, like parenting, comes in seasons.