Separation Anxiety
Separation of anxiety is a normal part of childhood, at some point all kids experience some form of separation anxiety. Here is what parents can typically expect.
Infants
As early as 4 months your baby may experience separation anxiety, however typically infants will begin to show signs of separation anxiety around 9 months when they develop object permanence. The transition can made worse if your baby is hungry, tired or is unwell. Try to keep the transition short and ideally apart of a routine.
Toddlers
With toddlers, their separation anxiety can be exacerbated by their increase in communication. Toddlers can now voice their opinions, likes and dislikes. Toddlers may be more tearful, loud and it may be more difficult to calm their emotions.
Preschoolers
With preschoolers and the introduction of preschool/daycare can come an extra level of anxiety; being dropped off at a strange place with strange people can certainly increase anyone’s anxiety. However, reassure your child that they’re fine and that they will have fun. Be consistent, don’t return to the room and make the transition an quick as possible.
How to help your child
-If you are starting a new daycare or school, try and spend time at that new place to familiarize your child with the space and new people.
-Allow your child to bring something from home to help comfort them, you can gradually fade the item out the more your child becomes comfortable.
-Start with short separations, then gradually increase the time spent apart.
-Tell your child that you are leaving, but that you’ll be back.
-Try to keep a happy expression on your face; don’t express any worry or your own anxiety as your child may feel unsafe.
-Avoid using negative language like: “don’t be such a baby”
-Read books to your child about separation
-Encourage your child after you return, praise them for being brave, giving them plenty of positive attention.
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